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ULASAN BUKU JP NOV 2011

Posted by blogpmm on November 25, 2011

Book Review-A DOCTOR IN THE HOUSEThe Memoirs of Tun Dr Mahathir Mohamad oleh Khuzaimah Baharuddin

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RM38 Billion Pusaka Belum Dituntut

Posted by blogpmm on July 5, 2011

ULASAN – RM38 Billion Pusaka Belum Dituntut

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Raising Happy Kids

Posted by blogpmm on July 4, 2011

RAISING HAPPY KIDS (1)

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Law of attraction = hukum tarikan

Posted by blogpmm on April 22, 2010

Ulasan Oleh :
Nurul Esly Binti Sabiran
Jabatan Perdagangan
Politeknik Merlimau, Melaka
April 2010

Penulis : Michael J. Losier
Penterjemah : Fakhroll Rodziee Don dan Faris Fahmi Ibrahim
Penerbit : PTS Profesional Publishing Sdn. Bhd.
Cetakan Ketiga Oktober 2009
ISBN : 978-983-3586-03-5

Dalam Islam, Allah SWT telah berfirman, “Allah tidak akan mengubah nasib sesuatu kaum sehingga mereka sendiri mengubah nasib mereka.” (Surah Ar-Ra’du :11). Bertitik tolak dari situ, penulis membuat kesimpulan bahawa nasib seseorang bukanlah ditentukan oleh takdir. Sebaliknya, manusia yang menentukan takdirnya sendiri. Sebahagian daripada anda mungkin pernah mendengar tentang hukum ini, namun tidak memahaminya secara mendalam.
Buku ini mengupas proses 3 Langkah yang terbukti berkesan tentang bagaimana mendapatkan apa yang yang diinginkan. Hukum Tarikan didefinisikan sebagai “Saya menarik ke dalam hidup saya apa sahaja perkara yang saya berikan sepenuh perhatian, tenaga dan fokus, sama ada positif ataupun negatif”. Antara kata-kata atau ungkapan yang merujuk Hukum Tarikan adalah seperti :
• Tanpa diduga
• Karma
• Tanpa disangka
• Kebetulan
• Sejak azali • Nasib baik
• Takdir
• Sudah ditakdirkan
• Pucuk dicita, ulam mendatang

Menurut penulis, Hukum Tarikan bukanlah sekadar istilah canggih ataupun sihir zaman moden. Ia adalah satu bentuk hukum semula jadi di mana setiap atom anda sentiasa memberi tindak balas secara tetap sama ada anda mengetahuinya atau tidak. Dengan menggunakan fungsi NLP (Neuro Linguistic Programming), penulis memahami bagaimana cara minda dan fikiran anda bekerja. Setiap masa anda mempunyai satu perasaan. Pada masa itu, perasaan yang sedang dialami menyebabkan anda mengeluarkan getaran negatif atau positif. Pada waktu ini, Hukum Tarikan memainkan peranan.
Contohnya, seorang pekerja yang bangun pagi pada hari Isnin dengan rasa marah, sebenarnya menghantar keluar getaran negatif. Ketika getaran itu dihantar keluar, Hukum Tarikan memberikan tindak balas dengan memadankan getaran yang dihantar oleh orang itu dengan memberikan semula lebih banyak getaran yang sama beliau berikan. Hukum Tarikan akan memadankan keadaan dengan getaran, sama ada positif atau negatif. Sekiranya, pekerja itu bangun daripada katil, kakinya tersadung, roti bakarnya hangus, jalan raya penuh sesak, pelanggan membatalkan temu janji dan hari itu berakhir dengan pelbagai rasa kesal dan beliau berkata, “Sepatutnya saya terus berada di katil”. Begitu juga dengan seorang jurujual yang sangat gembira kerana memperoleh jualan besar. Getaran positif akan merangsang beliau untuk mendapatkan lebih banyak jualan dan sudah pasti beliau akan berkata, “Murahnya rezeki saya sekarang”. Contoh-contoh tersebut menunjukkan Hukum Tarikan benar-benar berfungsi, membuka jalan dan menyusun atur segala apa yang berlaku, membawa kepada lebih banyak daripada apa yang mereka berikan sama ada positif ataupun negatif.
Hukum Tarikan memberi tindak balas dengan cara yang sama seperti minda. Jika anda mengeluarkan kenyataan yang mengandungi perkataan ‘jangan’, ‘bukan’ dan ‘tidak’, anda sebenarnya memberikan perhatian dan kekuatan kepada apa yang tidak diinginkan. Oleh yang demikian, getaran negatif mesti disetkan semula kepada getaran positif. Perlu difahami juga bahawa Hukum Tarikan tidak mengingati getaran lima minit yang lalu. Ia hanya bertindakbalas ke atas getaran yang dihantar pada masa ini dan getaran akan bertindak pada ketika itu.
Formula 3 Langkah boleh diaplikasikan bagi menggunakan Hukum Tarikan secara lebih sengaja. Langkah-langkah tersebut adalah :
i) Kenal pasti impian
Kontras atau perkara yang tidak diingini atau disukai membantu anda untuk mengenalpasti apa yang diingini atau membangikitkan persoalan, “Jadi, apa yang saya mahu?”. Panduan utama untuk mendapat apa yang diinginkan adalah dengan memerhatikan kontras dalam tempoh yang singkat. Lebih singkat tempoh untuk memberikan perhatian, ia adalah lebih baik.
Kontras juga perlu dihadkan dalam semua aspek hidup terutamannya dalam aspek kerjaya, kewangan, kesihatan dan perhubungan. Keempat-empat aspek ini sering diperhatikan dalam tempoh yang lama dan ia memiliki banyak emosi negatif. Proses Jelas Menerusi Kontras akan membantu anda untuk menjadi lebih jelas tentang impian. Beberapa bahagian penting dalam hidup diutarakan oleh penulis sebagai ‘menjadi jelas’ begitu berfaedah :
• Kerjaya
• Wang
• Hubungan dengan pasangan hidup
• Persahabatan
• Hubungan di tempat kerja
• Pelanggan perniagaan
• Pendidikan
• Kesihatan
Lembaran Kerja Jelas Menerusi Kontras digunakan untuk menunjukkan bagaimana Proses Jelas Menerusi Kontras membantu anda untuk menjadi lebih jelas.
Kontras :
Perakara yang saya tidak suka
(Bahagian A) Jelas:
Perkara yang saya suka
(Bahagian B)
1. Tidak cukup wang
2. Sentiasa ada bil untuk dibayar
3. Isu kewangan membuatkan saya tertekan

1. Wang saya melimpah ruah
2. Bil dapat dibayar dengan mudah dan cepat
3. Hubungan saya dan wang membuatkan saya gembira

ii) Berikan perhatian terhadap impian
Dengan memberikan perhatian positif, getaran yang diidamkan dapat dimasukkan dalam getaran semasa. Menurut Hukum Tarikan, apa saja perkara atau impian yang anda berikan perhatian, tenaga dan fokus, maka impian itu akan menjadi kenyataan. Begitu juga sekiranya anda mempunyai impian tetapi tidak memberikan perhatian dan fokus, ia tidak akan menjadi kenyataan. Hukum Tarikan hanya bertindak balas dengan apa yang berada dalam Gelung Getaran sahaja.
Dua kaedah boleh digunakan untuk meningkatkan getaran supaya ia mampu menyemarakkan impian iaitu menggunakan afirmasi dan Pernyataan Keinginan. Contoh afirmasi positif adalah “Saya memiliki tubuh yang sihat dan kurus”. Dalam masa yang sama, getaran akan dihantar sama ada ia positif atau negatif. Jika kenyataan tidak sama dengan keadaan sebenar, iaitu keadaan sebenar adalah tidak sihat dan kurus atau ia adalah sesuatu yang mustahil untuk dicapai, maka anda sedang mencipata getaran negatif. Kebanyakan afirmasi tidak berhasil kerana Hukum Tarikan tidak bertindak balas pada apa yang dirasai dengan perkataan yang digunakan. Afrimasi positif akan menghantar getaran positif sekiranya ia benar bagi diri seseorang. Untuk membolehkan afirmasi sentiasa benar dan menghasilkan getaran positif, dua langkah boleh digunakan iaitu dengan mengubah afirmasi bagi menjadikannya berasa lebih baik dan alat kenyataan impian. Contohnya, kenyataan “Saya dalam proses untuk memiliki sebuah rumah”. Kenyataan impian mungkin berbunyi, “Saya ingin memiliki rumah saya sendiri”. Hukum Tarikan bertindak dalam menyusun atur keadaan dan kejadian alam bagi membawanya kepada anda.

iii) Membenarkannya
Langkah membenarkan merujuk kepada tiada getaran negatif. Rasa ragu adalah getaran negatif. Getaran negatif akan menghakis atau membatalkan getaran positif impian anda. Kaedah yang digunakan oleh penulis untuk membenarkan kenyataan adalah melalui permainan “membenarkan”. Permainan ini dimainkan dengan beberapa biji guli berada pada batang-batang kayu yang menembusi dinding silinder. Batang-batang kayu mewakili halangan atau ragu-ragu. Guli mewakili impian dan guli-guli yang jatuh adalah manifestasi (membenarkan). Dalam permaianan ini, kayu perlu dibuang bagi membenarkan beberapa buah biji guli jatuh ke dasar silinder. Untuk membolehkan guli-guli jatuh ke bawah silinder adalah dengan mengalihkan batang-batang kayu.
Dengan analogi yang sama, keinginan yang kuat sahaja tidak cukup untuk merealisasikan keinginan, tetapi halangan perlu dialihkan terlebih dahulu. Untuk mengurangkan atau membuang rasa ragu-ragu, anda boleh mencipta Pernyataan Membenarkan. Ia dilakukan dengan:
• Bertanyakan diri jika ada sesiapa yang mempunyai keinginan yang sama dengan anda
• Jika ya, berapa ramai yang melakukannya? semalam? minggu lepas?bulan lepas? tahun lepas?
• Gunakan kata ganti diri orang ketiga
• Pastikan pernyataan itu munasabah
Selain daripada penerangan tentang Hukum Tarikan, penulis juga menggunakan lembaran-lembaran kerja untuk memudahkan pemahaman pembaca. Penulis juga menggambarkan perhubungan seharian dengan getaran. Ia digambarkan dengan frekuensi radio yang berskala 1-100. Apabila getaran tinggi (frekuensi 98.5), ia bermakna tiada getaran negatif dan semuanya akan berjalan dengan mudah dan lancar. Untuk mengetahui anda berada pada frekuensi 98.5, ia boleh dilihat melalui apa yang anda rasa dan lalui. Bagi mengekalkan getaran pada frekuensi 98.5 walaupun ketika itu anda sedang bercakap atau berhadapan dengan rakan yang mempunyai getaran negatif, tugas anda adalah untuk menjaga getaran dan mengawal perbualan supaya getaran anda semakin meningkat dan positif.
Pada akhir topik, penulis turut menyertakan tips bagi ibu bapa dan guru bagi mengadaptasikan cara mengajar Hukum Tarikan kepada Kanak-Kanak. Penulis menyarankan agar beberapa langkah perlu diikuti oleh ibu bapa iaitu :
• Menggunakan perkataan yang mudah atau ringkas seperti perasaan dan rahsia
• Menanyakan soalan-soalan yang membolehkan kanak-kanak mengaitkan konsep Hukum Tarikan berdasarkan pengalaman mereka sendiri
• Menggunakan alat bantuan visual bersama kanak-kanak kecil
• Melaksanakan bersama permainan dan ganjaran
• Penglibatan ibu bapa
• Minta izin dan berikan izin
• Meneruskan keseronokan
Untuk mendapatkan lembaran kerja bagi Langkah 1- 3 ia boleh diperoleh dengan melawati laman web : http://www.LawofAttractionBook.com/wordkheets.html. Selain itu, penulis juga menggalakkan pembaca untuk menggunakan buku ini sebagai panduan selain artikel,TeleClasses, seminar,e-zine bulanan beliau dan laman web beliau : http://www.LawofAttractionBook.com.
Secara konklusi, Hukum Tarikan akan membantu individu untuk merealisasikan apa yang diiimpikan. Dengan memberikan fokus, perhatian dan tenaga, sesuatu impian adalah tidak mustahil untuk direalisasikan kerana getaran yang positif akan mendorong individu untuk mengoptimumkan fokus dan getaran tersebut untuk mencapai impian. Dalam erti kata lain, “jika kau fikirkan kau boleh, kau boleh!”
__________________________________________________________________________
Petikan kata-kata Dato’ Dr. Hj. Mohd Fadzilah Kamsah
“Hati yang bersih memancarkan gelombang positif yang amat kuat, lantas mempengaruhi orang sekeliling dan situasi-situasi menjadi positif sama. Sebaliknya, hati yang kotor akan memancarkan gelombang negatif yang amat kuat, menukarkan orang-orang sekeliling menjadi negatif juga membuat situasi-situasi pada saat kita berada tu menjadi negatif. Kesannya, kita jadi murung, tertekan, tiada kegembiraan dan menjalani hidup penuh dengan tekanan.”
~~Hadapi Dengan Senyuman~~
nurulesly@pmm.edu.my
12 Apr 2010

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HOW TO MANAGE YOUR POSTGRADUATE COURSE

Posted by blogpmm on April 7, 2010

“ HOW TO MANAGE YOUR  POSTGRADUATE COURSE ”

 It takes a positive approach to the opportunities available to us and is an indispensable guide for all postgraduate students

A Review by

KHUZAIMAH  BAHARUDDIN

Jabatan Perdagangan,  Politeknik Merlimau

Author                  : Lucinda Becker

Publisher               : Palgrave MacMillan, New York

                               First Publication, 2004 – 188 pages

ISBN                     : 1 – 4039 – 1656 – X

PMM Library         : LB2371.B43 2004

Postgraduate study can provide a rewarding and exciting route to developing ourselves personally, academically or professionally. There can be a whole host of reasons as to why those who decide to take up further study choose to do so at different stages of their lives.

Postgraduate study is different from undergraduate study in many ways. This book will help us make the transition from a first degree or the work place to a postgraduate course. It focuses on the management of the processes involved in a gaining a postgraduate qualification, rather than just outlining the mechanics of study and research. International in its approach, the book encourages us to assess, in a systematic way, the transferable skills that we can develop as part of the course – an area of personal development that is increasingly important.

The author, Lucinda Becker teaches at Reading University within the arts and humanities, social sciences and management. She is also a professional trainer, devising, developing and delivering courses at postgraduate level. Her other books include How to Manage your Science & Technology Degree, How to Manage your Arts, Social Sciences and Humanities Degree and How to Manage your Open & Distance Learning Course. 

This is an-eleven-chapters-zero-graphic-book, in which I found so magnetic due to the contents discussed. Varies from Choosing and Beginning your Postgraduate in Chapter 2, Your Skills Base in Chapter 4, Working with your Supervisor in Chapter 5, Managing your Course in Chapter 6, Teamwork and Networking in Chapter 8, Presenting your Ideas in Chapter 9 and as well as Writing up Your Research in Chapter 10. Each and every issue is discussed in detail, as a useful guide for those intending to further studies. As forewarned is forearmed, therefore the tips, guidance and information received in advance can help one prepare for oncoming problems.

I believe that one main question that frequently lingering in your mind (and me, too!) is whether to proceed or not the application to pursue study. According to Lucinda Becker, first and foremost; never assume that we are under qualified for a course. Just ensure that the chosen course has full and meaningful accreditation. If we have many demands upon the time, make sure that the course is flexible. Therefore do the research and find out as how much as we can about the course in advance. Even if we do not think that we will get it, still look into applying for funding. Also, think about supervision even before beginning the extended research.

Working in a fog of confusion is the worst possible to tackle a post graduate course, yet sometimes we might feel as if we cannot help but be confused, because we are unclear about the demands that will be made upon our time and the input that will be expected of us. Therefore, alert to any opportunity. Attend every seminar that is open to us and be prepared to contribute. Lectures are opportunities to meet academics and see the wider implications of the subject. If there is no discussion group in the department, start one of our own. Bear in mind that tutorials are not to be feared, they are to be exploited. Work-base projects need time and care and can bring coherence in the vocational course. Also be updated that e-learning is on increase; we can make the most of it.

During school life, brilliant students are the top flying colors achievers. But this does not necessarily apply in postgraduate course. We must know our own strengths and weakness. In order to smooth up the postgraduate course, analyse our existing skills base and assess our needs in terms of skills development. Learn how to read productively, improve the ways in which we articulate the ideas and learn how to write persuasively. Oral presentation must be mastered. Thinking creatively, laterally and as widely as possible is essential. Writing and presenting ideas are the part and parcel involvements in postgraduate course that are very impossible to avoid.

Working with a supervisor can feel rather strange in the beginning. It is not a working partnership that we can neglect, as we will need the help of the supervisor in so many ways. If we can choose the supervisor, check his/her area of expertise, track record, availability and most importantly, enthusiasm. Try to broaden the range of research and learning opportunities with the help of the supervisor as we are not expected to be an expert in every aspect of the course. Find out how best to communicate with the supervisor, and try not to take criticism in supervisions personally. Try to be flexible about the practicalities of the supervision. If we change direction significantly in the research, tell the supervisor fairly promptly. Occasionally, let the supervisor know that we are enjoying the research!

Manage the course, rather than letting it manages us. Be an active note-taker, the initial notes are just our starting point. Keep reading notebooks and update them periodically. Do not shy away from exploring other disciplines occasionally and produce research sheets for each area of research. Develop study partnerships if we can and join discussion groups. Time management is crucial so do develop strategies to master the time. Create own timetable and use it to manage all the elements of the course.

What if things go wrong? Everybody is essential to the occasional bad day. Identify the root cause of the problem before we feel too demoralized. We will spend much of the time feeling in control and focused on the course, but there will be stages of the journey when we might feel less sure of ourselves and the study, when the path is unclear. Use the support services that exist within the university. Try not to suffer in silence. Work with the supervisor to resolve problems, never assume that we are alone in the difficulties we are experiencing. Be proactive by tackling issues as they arise.

Overall, a postgraduate course is more than simply a period of study and research. It is also, crucially, a time for reflection and self development. As a postgraduate, we are embarking on a journey that will be exciting, satisfying and challenging.  In this way we can make the most of this chance to develop our skills base, maximize our learning opportunities and widen our understanding, both of ourselves and the subject area with which we are engaged.  When we feel that things are going well, it helps us to assess our success and analyse that success. When we feel isolated, confused or just plain demoralized, our difficulties are both a normal part of the postgraduate experience and entirely surmountable.

Personally, reading the book inspires me to get in life of postgraduate course. Theoretically it widens the horizon of furthering study, in spite of for instance, enjoying the glory of carrying “Dr” at the beginning of the name – the symbol of virtue after passing through all aspects of self reflection, self development as well as the intellectual, emotional and mental survival.  

I guess that the author might be in future revise the contents by adding extra elements like the tips on how to manage postgraduate course for working, married  couples and parents in focus; as sometimes, truth is stranger than fiction. The value of postgraduate study can be measured in the hardship that some people are prepared to bear in gaining an additional qualification. This can be challenging enough if the course is less than a year in length full time; but a sustained period of scrimping may be required to get through part-time taught courses, full-time research degrees and, longest of all, a part-time PhD.  However, never say die before we try. Let’s strike while the iron is still hot, for opportunity seldom knocks twice. Allah Ta’ala helps those who help themselves.   Wallahu’alam.

Just seeing which way the wind is blowing,

QuzaiFuaad

Wednesday 31 /03 /10

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“COOL BOYS SUPER SONS”

Posted by blogpmm on November 10, 2009

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What parents can do to motivate teen boys to strive for their personal best at home, at school and beyond

Review by

 

KHUZAIMAH BAHARUDDIN

Jabatan Perdagangan, Politeknik Merlimau

Author : Jamilah Samian

Publisher : Truewealth Publishing,

First Edition, May 2009

ISBN : 978-983-3364-79-4

Pages : 204 pages

Price : RM 39.90

Cool Boys Super Sons Author

 

 

Puan Jamilah Samian came out with her first parenting book, “Cool Mum Super Dad” in 2006 after working on it for two years researching and writing the material. The book with its Asian slant on how to be a better parents did rather well in the local market. A Bahasa Malaysia version is also available.

Recently, the mother of six and former IT executive has come out with a second parenting book, this time looking into escaping the pitfalls of parenting teenage boys, “Cool Boys Super Sons”, took her one-and-a-half years to write and is targeted at parents with sons aged between 10 to 19. Progressively, she is now in process to complete her third book on marriage issues. (Actually I’ve made a personal phone call to her on 12 August 2009 asking permission to do this book review and she’s glad to permit me to do so and congratulate our polytechnic/organization for encouraging book review activity …syukur ).

This book covers what parents can do specially when it comes to raising boys. It is full of anecdotes and real-life examples. Most of all the author offers a lot of food for thought. As a mother of five boys aged between 11 and 23, Puan Jamilah has first-hand experience about raising boys. The moment people find out that she has five boys, they make all sort of comments such as how she manages to raise them. There is a lot of concern out there about boys in two major areas – behaviour and academics. Boys whose academic performance decline come under two categories, i.e boys who used to excel in school but whose performance has slipped over the years; and boys who have never done particularly well in school but are now trailing further and further behind. You can have a son who is doing well in school and behaving positively. You don’t have to choose between the two. Boys have a tendency to overestimate their academic abilities. It’s important for you to focus more on effort, less on ability. Throughout his life, a boy needs compelling challenges to be motivated.

Boys love to be challenged and this will sometimes be reflected in the strength of their ambition. That would be a good gauge for his success in life when he grows up. While it is great for parents to challenge their teenage sons, they should be wary of presenting challenges that are too easy or too difficult for their children.

Part of the research for this book includes interviewing many families and young men who had troubled childhoods to get their stories on paper. The book highlights the right way of raising boys and factors which made a young man turn out the way he did. Adolescence is a major turning point for boys. Adolescence provides a valuable window of opportunity to change for the better. This is why parents need to pay special attention to teen boys.

Puan Jamilah advises parent to be kind but firm. Lots of kindness balanced with firmness at the right time will go a long way towards raising self-disciplined, confident children.

I found the chapter on trust thoroughly interesting. Puan Jamilah highlights that if we want our son to listen to us and give his personal best, we need to develop a relationship based on trust because teen boys only listen to people they trust. Trust tends to bring out the best in boys. A teenage son is not going to excel if we as parents don’t trust him enough to let him go and let him learn. Sometimes all he needs is to know that you have faith in him and his abilities. Boys are motivated to prove themselves and act responsibly when they feel trusted. Helping your son earn your trust involves assisting him to establish a pattern of consistent, trustworthy behaviour. Trust works wonders because it’s such a good feeling to have. Trust makes everything else easier!

She also advises parents to give their children another chance if the trust was broken before and to always stay calm in tense situations. The common mistakes that parents make here are jumping to conclusions and becoming intrusive or accusatory because then the child will withdraw even further and it will close down communication

Discipline is a big issue when it comes to boys. Research has shown that what works with one child may not work with another. No two children are the same. The best form of discipline is when you raise enough discomfort in the child to make him to change. It is always about change, from bad behaviour to something that is acceptable. There is just no excuse for bad behaviour and parents should emphasise that.

Actually I found that the advices in this book can be applied to teenage girls as well. There is also a chapter in the book that’s all about communication. Puan Jamilah stresses that parents should be on the same wavelength when it comes to raising a child. The point is, when the father doesn’t back up the mother or vice versa, they are sending out conflicting messages. It is important for parents to be on the same page. Throughly, you can successfully connect with your son if you equip yourself with BASK:

Belief – You believe it can be done.

Attitude – You have a positive attitude.

Skills – You are willing to improve your communication skills over time.

Knowledge – You have sufficient knowledge about yourself and your son.

The Rule of Reciprocity says the more you listen to your son, the more he listens to you. So, listen well. Puan Jamilah adds that it is crucial for parents to lead by example as well. A chain smoker can’t really tell his son not to smoke and expect the boy to listen. She says that parenting is a skill that we have to learn and fine-tune to suit our particular situation.

In the chapter on personal accountability, Puan Jamilah gives examples of how parents can offer encouragement and not lay the guilt trip on their teenage sons. There are also some tips on hot to get your son to be more organized. Concerning school achievement, studies reveal that teens tend to get better grades in school when parents stress independences over obedience, involve them in the decision-making and react encouragingly towards their academic performance and habits. Puan Jamilah feels that parents should not push their sons beyond their own limits when it comes to their education. The passion for learning should be above grades, because what we want are well-adjusted, all-rounded boys. Also, parents must stay obstinately optimistic in raising boys. Our state of mind must be that way because if we give up, that would not put us on the right footing. Constantly telling ourselves that boys will be boys is not the right way to go either.

Sometimes we tend to do things the way our parents did. But the children today aren’t anything like the children of the past so we do need to get better and more up-to-date ideas on parenting especially when it comes to teens. Hence, never compare your struggling son to his better performing siblings. Recognize your son’s efforts more than his abilities. Help your son to develop a vision of who he wants to be. Also, redefine success as achieving small breakthroughs rather than winning trophies and medals.

If you are a single parent, you are the rock of the family. Give priority to your needs. If you are a single mother, respect your son’s masculinity and allow him to have male role models. If you are a single father, take care that communication is always open between you and your son. If you are a stepparent, understand and accept that the dynamics of a stepfamily are different from a biological family. It is worth your time to seek guidance about the tools and skills you need to navigate the intricacies of the stepfamily.

There are many parenting books available but we have to adjust their advice accordingly to suit our family’s situation. Boys in their teens are experiencing many changes in their brain and body, hence, are more prone to emotional outbursts. Parents should not to take things too personally when their son is sunny one minute and moody the next. Teenage boys are too old to be babied and too young to be considered adults.

Sharing is caring. Overall, I’d say that this is a good book for parents – not just for those who have sons. It offers examples, interesting information and lots of food for thought. There are even chapters on sex education and the home environment. The chapters are peppered with at-a-glance information – think about it, action points and in a nutshell – which make it easy for us to read if we want to quickly skim through that chapter or want to remember what we read. “Cool Boys Super Sons” is a simple English read. This book is illustrated by her only daughter who also did the illustrations for “Cool Mum Super Dad”. To conclude, parenting teens takes ingenuity, skill and intelligence – we need to be two steps ahead of them and this book gives us lots of ideas on how to do it. Wallahu’alam.


Mother of four boys in a row,

QuzaiFuaad

Friday 14 / 08 / 09

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